Tuesday, January 28, 2025

Pygmalion


It seems we prefer to use the word can't over won't. 

can't get along with my wife. I can't stop overeating. I can't draw very well. I can't make any money.

However, most of the time the word can't may be easily be substituted for won't. 

won't get along with my wife. I won't stop overeating. I won't draw that well. I won't make any money.

Disinclined

I have been praying for respite from specific maladies for years which, in my estimation, have never been answered, and I owe it to my disinclination to do what I must do to have them resolved. The power to change is within me. The Lord has, in effect, already answered my prayer years ago. I've always had it.

The Pygmalion Effect

There is a character in Greek mythology, Pygmalion, who carved an ivory sculpture of his ideal woman. Pygmalion was so enamored that he fell in love with the statue and eventually willed her to life.

In relation to that myth, the Pygmalion effect is the self-fulfilling prophecy, the psychology of expectations. The book The Wizard of Oz and the movie My Fair Lady are modern examples of the Pygmalion effect. The scarecrow wanted a brain but he always had one. The same with the lion’s courage, and the tin man's heart. In My Fair Lady the professor was inspired to transform a street girl into a lady, but she always was.

You can see a lot by looking

Team leaders from athletics to shop foremen, sometimes unknowingly, commute the self-fulfilling prophecy to his/her team but often, we do it to ourselves with our own self-beliefs. We nearly always rise to our own level of expectation. 

The dark side of it is when Dr. Joyce Brothers said we can never act in a way inconsistent with the way we view ourselves. The answer to that is, of course is how to see ourselves.

Speaking for myself, do I see myself as a victor or a victim? Do I see myself as someone who can't do something or won't do something?

If I want to work as a full-time artist and writer, then it's critical I earn the correct mindset to see it come to fruition. If I see myself as someone who struggles from day to day, then that will be my realization.

The correct mindset and answers to my prayers begins with my personal life. How’s my relationship with my wife and the rest of my family? Do I get plenty of sleep, exercise and drink plenty of water? Do I have a good diet? Do I drink alcohol or eat highly processed junk food? Do I read quality material, or do I watch too much TV and You Tube videos?

The answer to prayers is already inside us.


Thursday, September 12, 2024

Focus, People, Focus!


 

How to Focus

A Means to an End...

Everything I do is a means to an end. Many think that I have a passion for drawing or writing but even those activities aren’t really a passion of mine. Make no mistake, I love doing those things but at this stage I’m earning a living doing so, but my real enjoyment involving those duties is drawing and writing things that interest only myself.

Follow your passion?

 If I always did what I am passionate about, that which brings me the most enjoyment, it would undoubtedly involve outdoor cooking with a fly rod in one hand and a pair of tongs in the other. Unfortunately, I can’t think of an expedient way of earning a living doing so and even if I could, I doubt I would want to.

My business of being a cartoonist involves drawing what others want and thankfully, I like doing it, I think I’m good at it, at least good enough to sell it, and it makes me money. Those three ingredients are essential in any meaningful, purposeful and profitable endeavor.

This isn't a good time...

My biggest source of anxiety comes not from business but from a financial basis. Because I am so anxious about finances, I avoid the subject, which is a normal response. Anyone who is not happy about something typically avoids the issue. I’ve also discovered in the process, that avoiding a problem doesn’t make it go away and in fact, in most cases, only worsens it and the best time to learn about something isn’t when we’re compelled to do so. For example, being amid a marital crisis isn’t the best time to suddenly start reading books on how to have a better marriage.

reticular activation

In reviewing all the books I own, I have many on history, biographies, football, literature, business and how to become better at drawing and writing but painfully few on money.

To get better at something, it’s important to focus on it. Not only will the thing upon which we focus improve but it spurs the reticular activation in our brains. Thats when one is shopping for a car, say a red Jeep, and suddenly he seems to notice all the other red jeeps currently on the road. It’s because he’s focused on red jeeps and suddenly, he notices more people who already have them.

When I focus my attention on learning as much as I can about money the same reticular activation kicks in and it expands my knowledge of it, and everything else reflects that focus. But focusing on one thing doesn’t dilute all my other objectives. Rather by practicing the discipline and commitment it takes to focus on one thing, improves my mindset and everything else also improves.

One thing leads to another

For example: to improve my financial picture by reducing debt, improving my credit score and saving and investing more money means I look for better ways to earn more money to solve the financial problems quicker and the best way to do so is to improve business, and so I become better at business.

Also, another caveat (and this is very important) is that learning about something without actually implementing what we’ve learned does us very little good. If I focus on improving my financial picture by learning everything relevant to the subject, but then go about business as usual then I haven’t improved a thing. It’s like someone who gets a degree in nuclear physics but then earns a living as a post hole digger. He knows how to split the atom but isn’t implementing his knowledge.

The best way to focus on something is:

One:  Decide what to focus on.  

Two: Schedule a time every day to learn about it. Jim Rhone said our commitment to success will never surpass our commitment to self-improvement.

Three: Schedule a time to implement what you learn. Learning something without implementing it is useless.

Tuesday, August 27, 2024

A Wooly Bear Caterillar

 


The wooly bear caterpillar lives in the artic north and it emerges in the very short warm months north of the artic circle. Once it's alive it immediately begins consuming what little  vegetation it can find but because of the very short spring and summer, it can't get enough energy or nutrition to to build a cocoon and turn into a moth.

When the winter arrives it crawls under ground and freezes. Its skin, its cells, and its blood freezes. It stops breathing and even its heart stops beating. After spending months in this state of simulated death, the summer slowly arrives, it reanimates, and the cycle starts all over. 

This cycle continues on an average of 7 years and often for over a decade until finally, one summer, it forms a cocoon and emerges as a moth and afterwards it has only 48 hours to find a mate and, when successful, it dies. 

The wooly caterpillar is trapped in its environment. No one knows how it got there but it doesn't have wings to escape until it turns into a moth, and then it spends its short life left looking for a mate.

This could be translated to so many people who spend most of their lives working towards retirement in a job they don't like. They repeat a yearly cycle for an entire career, never having the mentality, or the willingness, to break out of the vicious circle, repeating a single year for decades, to finally retire, if possible.

My father, in 1960, before I was born, got a job with the Memphis fire department,  and as I became of age, he often repeated to me, "I never intended to be a fireman and I expected it would be temporary until I found something better", but 30 years later, he retired a fireman. 

Many people make a claim that we simply have to take what life gives us, but as in the case of my father, it might be a way of rationalizing falling into a job by chance, and never changing.

We, however, have "wings" in the form of a mind. We can escape whatever lifestyle we feel trapped in if we are determined to do so. 

Friday, August 9, 2024

A Ditch Digger Who Knows Big Words




It does me very little good, other than reaping the benefits of reading over other forms of entertainment or learning, to envelope myself in invaluable books about business, life lessons, and biographies if I were to, upon completion, simply lay them down  and go about my business-as-usual lifestyle especially if I'm discontent with my status quo. Wouldn't it be much more beneficial to my vocational and personal life if I were to take the lessons and principles from my favorite authors and apply them to my efforts for success?

It's rhetorical because the answer is obvious. 

Even when reading a good work of fiction such as Dickens, Poe, London, Burroughs, Hemmingway, there are lessons to be learned. Certainly immersing myself in those written stories has so much more rewarding benefits as opposed to binge watching Netflix, a Star Wars marathon or (and I cringe at this) 90 Day FiancĂ©. 

"What possible benefits come from reading fiction that I can't get from watching the movie version?" One might ask. 

For one it exercises the brain and improves cognitive abilities as well as vocabulary not to mention how I can  get completely immersed in the story but the thing that fascinates me in large ways about fiction is the author's life story. Some of the best examples of applied success principles and all it's attributes abide within the writer's own real life and can be helpful to us regardless of our profession. Some of the qualities include...

  • Hard work
  • Persistence 
  • Self belief 
  • Motivation 
  • Economy of effort 
  • Focus 
  • Goal setting
  • Overcoming obstacles
and their philosophies of success are all qualities that reside in the authors' personal lives and this leads in a big way to my interest in reading the stories they write.

But again, whether its fiction or non fiction, if I reap some benefits from the lessons contained between the covers but then do nothing afterwards, then all I can do is think to myself how I enjoyed it but for what purpose?

It's incumbent upon me to take what principles I can, and make them a reality in my life. If not, then I will just end up being another ditch digger with more knowledge and a slightly better vocabulary.

I've listed some books I've found particularly useful and/or enjoyable:

 See you at the Top, Zig Ziglar

Schulz and Peanuts  David Michaelis

The Millionaire Next Door, Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko

Tools of Titans, Tim Ferris

Change Agents, Brian Tracy

Guerilla Marketing for Writers, Jay Conrad Levinson

The Now Habit, Neil Fiore

Ignore Everybody, Hugh MacLeod

A Better Way to Think, H. Norman Wright

Jesus is My CEO, Simon Lee

Late Bloomers, Rich Karlgaard

Swagger, Jimmy Johnson

Walt Disney, Neil Gabler

When Pride Still Mattered, David Marannis

FDR, Jean Edward Smith

Napoleon, Andrew Roberts

Steal Like an Artist Austin Kleon

Monday, July 1, 2024

Uncle Sam, Jackasses, and the Boss

 Happy Independence Day, Americans, and in honor of the holiday, enjoy some interesting historical facts about our great United States that few people know.



  • Legend has it that Uncle Sam originated with Samuel Willson, a merchant and meat packer, born outside Boston in 1766. During the war of 1812, Willson  delivered meat to troops and the crates were stamped with...


When a soldier asked what "U.S." stood for, he was told "Uncle Sam. It is he who feeds the U.S Army."

  • During the election of 1828, politics got personal when Andrew Jackson's opponents called him a jackass.  He gleefully adopted the image to represent the Democratic party.

  • Like the Democratic donkey, the Republican party symbol was born out of mockery. In 1874, the satirical cartoonist, Thomas Nast, drew an elephant and labeled it "the Republican vote".

  • Speaking of Thomas Nast, he has another place in American history...

William Magear Tweed (1823-1878), also known as "Boss" Tweed, was the head of Tammany Hall, the most powerful political machine in the history of New York and possibly the country. Tweed bragged openly about how much power he bought with huge bribes and scoffed at reformers, who couldn't touch his organization no matter how much noise they made. 



"As long as I count the 
votes", he said to one  do-gooder,  "what are you going to do about it?" 

Tweed treated the press with the same contempt telling them to print all the disclosures they wanted, but one activity of the press did concern him. Tweed was incensed by the caricatures of him drawn by Thomas Nast published in Harpers Weekly.  

"My constituents can't read", he said, "but they can see pictures!"


Eventually, Tweed was arrested, charged, convicted of bribery, and 
subsequently sentenced to 12 years imprisonment. However, his influence was so  great that he was allowed to visit home everyday till one day he simply slipped away. He escaped to Spain where he was certain he could conceal himself from the prying eyes of the press. However, within months he was identified and extradited to the USA to complete his sentence. His downfall? Someone recognized him from a Thomas Nast caricature.

Friday, June 28, 2024

It Ain't Like Cleaning Windows

  


All my life, my occupations have consisted of blue-collar jobs, most of which were outdoors, so, embedded in my psyche, when I think of work, I think of toiling with my hands, dirty, sweaty and strenuous.

 

But now I'm making the transition from the outdoor labor I'm familiar with to the mostly indoor work associated with Bob Doll Studios, and all it entails. It is a bit of a challenge. Actually, it's a considerable challenge. It’s a paradigm shift, 


a complete change of mindset.

 

My work no longer appears as a daily series of physical labors of the body but as a catalogue of mental tasks. This is a whole new world for me and one to which I'm unaccustomed.

 

Gone are the mornings when I would pray for the inspiration needed to venture into the gleaning fields and endeavor all day in the hot sun or the cold, stinging wind.


 It's a world I found predictable and controllable even though unpleasant. 


Now I seek wisdom to toil not in the fields but at a home studio, climate-controlled and safe, trying to answer the true calling in my life, one I should have answered many years ago. It may not be as predictable to me, not yet, but neither were the initial treks into the promised land. 

 

As they say, “be careful what you pray for. You might get it.”

 

Instead of writing estimates, I’m writing proposals. Instead of climbing a ladder, I’m counting pages. Instead of checking the forecast for rain, I’m closing the window blinds to prevent a glare on my computer screen. Instead of applying sunscreen, I'm turning away from the window so I won’t be distracted. Instead of drenching my head in cool water, I’m having another a cup of coffee.

 

It’s a different world, indeed.

 

When cleaning windows, I could track the progress I was making by counting the number of windows I cleaned, and I could also see with my eyes how much I still had left and I knew how long it would take me to complete. I also knew exactly the compensation I would receive at the end of the job.

 

I had a good reputation so finding new and repeat customers was fairly easy but now it’s as if I’m starting all over again.

 

It will take some time and adjustments to complete my success as a cartoonist, writer and instructor 


but succeed I will.

 

“…we should not be like cringing, fearful slaves, but we should behave like God’s very own children, adopted into the bosom of his very own family…” Romans 8:15

 





Tuesday, June 18, 2024

REPENT!

 

Good question…why do I want to be healthier? Why do I want to get better at what I do? Why do I want to be more prosperous? Is it so I can be slightly healthier and live longer with the version of who I am now? Is it so I can do the same things that I’m doing now only a little better at it? Is it so I can be the same as I am now only with a little more money?


Throughout history, when one decides enough is enough and determines to change the path he or she is on, it is without fail, accompanied by a complete change of mindset; 100% of the time. A person who resolves to lose 100 pounds, changes her mind, and adopts a completely different lifestyle as her approach to food and nutrition changes. Her attitude about exercise differs. Her determination strengthens.

One who is fed up with his financial struggles, career, lifestyle or bad relationships, and wants things to change then he changes his mind. It’s accompanied by a drastic change of mental attitude because the fact is, it is the mind that controls it all.  

It's all in your head.

Have you ever heard someone say about someone else, “he’s not ready to change”? This is when a person’s motivation to stay the same is greater than his desire to change like the old hound dog who’d rather sit on a nail, in agony, because he’s too lazy to move to another section of the porch.

Click below to watch the video about the hound dog sitting on a nail

                           The Hound Dog

If I want to get out of debt but still maintain my current work ethics, the same attitude about money, and keep the same learned helplessness, then a year from now I am likely to be in the same position, or worse.

The decision to work harder and smarter, to invest my money, to lose weight, to be a better husband, to be a better servant or to improve my skills begins and ends in my mind. Sometimes the thought of a dismal future is enough but then I must believe the change will be.

Fear pushes us but hope pulls us.

So, it’s a law just like in physics. “An object in motion tends to stay in motion unless acted upon by an outside force”. To change my life, I must change your mind.

Tuesday, June 11, 2024

Lost

 



Do you believe a person is where he/she is because that’s where that person wants to be? This is a general belief among many because whether you agree with it or not, a person is the sum of his/her choices. 

But consider this...

A few years ago, my mother moved to the Texas Hill country and the first time I went to see her in that part of the country, being neither familiar with the territory nor having a map, (this was before the days of Google maps) I couldn’t find her house. Being thoroughly lost, I went into a local gas station and asked the attendant if he knew how to get to Boerne, Texas and he was happy to oblige. I got back into the car setting out with confidence knowing, this time, I would get to Boerne.

Fifteen minutes later, after following his instructions, I was further away from my desired destination than I was before I asked him. I was traveling down a dark, isolated, two-lane highway at night and I had visions of The Texas Chainsaw Massacre flashing through my mind. I was in a place I didn’t want to be not because I wanted to be there, but rather, 

I was given the wrong directions...

There is another story about a salesman who was assigned by his territory manager to attend a seminar in Dallas at the convention center where the event was being held. His boss gave him handwritten directions on how to get from Houston to Dallas and how to find the arena once he was in the city. The salesman followed the directions explicitly, but he could not find the convention center.

He called his boss back home to tell inform of the situation and he was told...

 "You're not working hard enough"

So the salesman really concentrated, drove faster and with more determination. Still, he couldn’t find the Dallas Convention Center. Again, he called his boss in Houston to apprise him of the situation. “You need to quit being so negative”, he was told. 

"Think more positive and you can find it..."

So, the salesman began saying to himself “Be positive. I’m a positive person. I’m thinking positive.” But still, as hard as he worked and as positive as thought he could not find it.

Being thoroughly frustrated with the situation, he finally decided to pull into a convenience store to ask for directions to the Dallas Convention Center and handing the helpful young man his handwritten map the clerk said, “No wonder you can’t find the Dallas Convention Center. This is a map of Fort Worth!”. The salesman’s boss had given him the wrong directions.

Is the map we’re following the right map? Are the guidelines we’ve been given leading us in the wrong direction? Are we listening to the wrong voices? If so, maybe we’re where we are not because we want to be there, but because we’ve been given the wrong instructions.

Maybe some of us been programmed by a belief system, a mindset or circumstances from an early age that may have worked for some who are content with their lot but not for everyone who wants something different than what we've been given, with different objectives, different tendencies, a different purpose, different interests and talents.

 

Monday, June 3, 2024

How Jack Did It....

 


Jack London was a famous American author who wrote such novels as The Call of the Wild, White Fang and The Sea Wolf, and many short stories like, To Build a Fire, An Odyssey of the North and A Far Country. He often drew upon his own adventurous experiences in developing plots and characters. He was a forerunner of the great Ernest Hemingway and his stories often depicted man’s struggle against a cruel and unforgiving natural environment and the savageness of his fellow humans.

But how did London become so successful at writing and---

How did he know what he wanted to do?

As a boy, London was raised by his mother and his stepfather who adopted him after his own natural father rejected him by denying that he was his son. In San Francisco, Jack dropped out of high school to work in a cannery but soon left that dead-end employment to try his hand as an oyster poacher. He then worked as a member of the fisheries enforcement, a sailor, and a seal hunter in the Bearing Sea, which he described as a gruesome occupation.

In 1898, he was 21 and decided to join his brother-in-law on a trip to Alaska to join him on the Klondike gold rush, where, Instead of finding his fortune, he found the trip was a disaster and London claimed to have discovered only $4.50 in gold dust. He was trapped in an Alaskan cabin, while outside, in London’s own words---

 “Winter froze everything to icey stillness”.

“Nothing stirred” he wrote,

“The Yukon slept under a coat of ice three feet thick”

 A diet of bacon, beans and bread had given him scurvy. His gums bled, his teeth were loose, and his joints ached. London decided that if he were to live, he would no longer try to rise above poverty through physical labor. Instead, he would become a writer. So, he carved into the table the words 


Jack was determined to become a successful writer, but the odds were stacked against him. Not only was he poor but he had no literary background and no literary connections but within 5 years he became one of the most successful writers in American Literature and his stories today are still regarded as some of the most brilliant. He was such a triumph at writing that by 1907 he was making the equivalent in today’s money of $250,000 a month.

He went from a poor, dejected, unskilled, laborer and in a relatively short time, became a prosperous writer. 

The question is, how did he do it?

The thing about the secret of success is that it’s no secret because every time someone is successful, they tell everyone how they did it. Jack London was no exception in this respect.

He granted interviews and wrote articles on how he started and how he became a writer. Here are some of his suggestions:

1.  Be Prolific

I knew positively nothing about it. I lived in California, far from the great publishing centers. I did not know what an editor looked like. I did not know a soul who had ever published anything; nor yet again, a soul, with the exception of my own, who had ever tried to write anything, much less tried to publish it. I had no one to give me tips, no one’s experience to profit by.”

 London’s solution was to write prolifically. And begin writing at different types of writing.

 I sat down and wrote in order to get an experience of my own. I wrote everything-short stories, articles, anecdotes, jokes, essays, sonnets, ballads, villanelles, triolets. Songs, light plays in iambic tetrameter, and heavy tragedies in blank verse. These various creations I stuck into envelopes, enclosed return postage, and dropped into the mail. Oh, I was prolific.”

 

2.  Don’t quit your day job

 London, like many beginners with stars in their eyes, thought he would make money quickly as a writer but soon found out the opposite was true. Initially, instead of paychecks, he received hundreds of rejection slips. Finally, he found someone who was willing to publish one of his short stories, but it was for the contemptibly small amount of $5.

 Finding his way in literature became so difficult that after a time, he even considered returning to shoveling coal but thank God for us, he didn’t. One day, shortly before giving up, a publisher offered him $40 for a short story. This was the beginning of his literary achievements.

 Out of this came his experience, and advise, that it’s easier to reach success if you’re not always worried about money. If one has money for financial support, it’s likely to mean that creators won’t give up on their objectives as easily.

 

3.   Stick to popular genres

"A good joke sells better than a good poem."

By this he meant if one were to stick to the popular genres then his work would sell better to a mass audience.

“Avoid unhappy endings, the harsh, the brutal, the tragic, the horrible.” 

This is ironic advice coming from London because he broke these rules in many of his stories. To Build a Fire is one example of a catastrophic ending for the protagonist. 

“In this connection, don’t do as I do, but do as I say.”


 4.  Don’t wait for inspiration

 “Don’t loaf and invite inspiration. Light out after it with a club, and if you don’t get it you will nonetheless get something remarkably like it. Set yourself a stint and do that stint each day. You will have more words to your credit at the end of the year.”

 If you set yourself a daily writing goal, whether it’s mountainous, like 5000 words, or smaller such as 500 words, and you follow through despite distractions, you will develop a good writing habit.

 

5.  Study the craft

AAnother way London learned to write was by poring over the works of great writers. 

“Study the tricks of the writers who have arrived. They have mastered the tools with which you are cutting your fingers. They are doing things, and their work bears the internal evidence of how it’s done. Don’t wait for some good Samaritan to tell you but dig it out for yourself.”

 The greatest writers give us a standard by which to compare our own work. Reading them is a road map to creating our own works of art.

 

6.  Stay healthy

 “See that your pores are open, and your digestion is good. That is, I am confident, the most important rule of all”.

 Writing is a sedentary job. Your brain is attached to your body. and you can’t do your best work if you’re weak or in ill health.

 

7.  Keep a writer’s notebook

 “Keep a notebook. Travel with it. Eat with it. Sleep with it. Slap into it every stray thought that flutters up into your brain. Cheap paper is less perishable than gray matter, and lead pencil markings endure longer than memory.”

 London wasn’t the only writer who kept a notebook. All great writers do the same to collect ideas and help get them out of creative ruts. Keeping a writer’s notebook is fundamental in creative writing courses. To be a prolific writer you must get used to the idea and the habit of writing down your thoughts in a notebook.

London’s suggestions on how to become a successful writer are easily transferred to whatever a person decides to be prosperous at doing. The above methods are the ones he put into practice to be able to write some of the most gripping and unforgettable stories in literature. The final words of the article are London’s own and probably the most important:

“Spell it out in capital letters. WORK. WORK all the time. Find out about this Earth, this universe…and by this I mean WORK for a philosophy of life…. The three great things are: GOOD HEALTH; WORK; and A PHILOSOPHY OF LIFE…. With it you may cleave to greatness and sit among the giants.”

 

Friday, May 31, 2024

Come With Me

 One of the most disheartening things I've faced is grueling, laborious work when there is so much more that was expected of me from teachers, friends, pastors, my wife, and myself for that matter. 

I was raised with two sisters by a single mother in the 1970's when it was much grimmer as a single mom than today. Money being scarce for us at the time, there were periods when we couldn't afford a television. It really wouldn't have mattered much, even with a TV because, back then, there were only 3 channels from which to choose so the distractions were fewer. And when our TV went on the fritz, which was more common in those days, it was a while before Mom could afford a new set. 

Not having a TV as a kid and having lots of alone time while Mom worked to support us, I had occasions to read more for entertainment than the average kid and certainly more than my friends. As grade school boy I was reading H.G. Wells, Edgar Rice Burroughs and non-fiction books on astronomy and the American space program. By the time I was in junior high school I was reading novels by Leon Uris and Margaret Mitchell. 

Needless to say, I loved drawing and I emulated humorous artists from Mad Magazine, Peanuts, Cracked, Plop, the Sunday paper and others. The way the artists created stories from their characters was of interest to me and I even created my own strip called Salt Shaker


Because of my talent for drawing and my interest in reading, I would always try my hand at both, and I was in high school when a writing teacher complimented me on a report I wrote about Bartholomew Dias. I would often accompany some papers and reports with illustrations of my own for that extra touch. 

Most of my family knew of my interest in the creative arts but were never really engaged in it. Mom was too busy just trying to help us survive and my father was too immersed in his own activities to even know what I liked to do. Regardless, most of the adults in my life, with good intentions, felt art was a good diversion but it was no way to earn a living. The best way to do that, they said, was to get a job, pay my bills and make my boss happy.

During my school years I often practiced writing, unwittingly so, by keeping journals or even spontaneously writing things down on a single sheet of notebook paper or scrap paper. Sketchbooks were common for me also, even if it was a simple spiral notebook, and to this day I often keep a combination sketch-journal with drawings combined with my written thoughts. In my youth, I wasn't even aware there were books made for the sole purpose of drawing in them. When I finally  discovered sketchbooks, I presumed they were for real artists, not me. This is the sort of thing that happens when a youngster has no real guidance or mentoring.

I loved getting my hands on drawing instruction books and in some of the comic books of which I was a fan, had drawing lessons between stories.

In college, which I wasn't expected to attend, my creative writing instructor called me out of class and spoke to me in the hallway to tell me how particularly skilled I was at writing and that I should have considered it as a profession. 

I did nothing with the counsel, which was a frequent behavioral pattern of mine, as "life" got in the way. The distractions of so many things and people unrelated to the betterment of myself or of the hunt for a career in which I would have excelled seemed to greedily pull me away from a life of promise. Also, I don’t think I really believed I was good enough or smart enough to make a good go at it. My destiny in life, I felt, was to be of service to my obligations by sacrificing my own happiness for the sake of others. That was a cruel, sadistic lie.

My adult working life has been an unwelcome, working-class existence which has produced nothing more than an unhappy exertion and has procured only a hand-to-mouth, paycheck to paycheck existence at best. Here at this stage, I crave nothing more than to finally end a life of servitude, by once and for all silencing all the ghostly voices of the past who said “it’s no way to earn a living”, and finally pursue with all my abilities, a career in the creative arts.


Miserable You

 

I received from Amazon, Miserable You by Ron Mileti which, I must confess, was much anticipated after taking a quick glance at it last week. I really didn't expect it to be on the same level of War and Peace or Shakespeare and the biggest reason I was interested is because I wanted to see how the author composed the book; a research project if you will.

The perspective is unique as Mileti addresses a supposed audience of mediocre, underachievers who want to continue on said path. It's not unlike the successful businessman who espouses ways to guarantee failure is to do the opposite of what successful people do. 

Even though my personal expectations weren't very high to begin with, I was expecting more for my money. It's written on a 6th grade reading level as the sentences are short and choppy and the lessons are geared mainly for younger readers. 

The illustrations were good but being an illustrator myself I felt the book could have used more.

The humor seemed to be a little forced and sophomoric and too often. 

Of course it proposes to address readers who have a bad attitude, which is the rather brilliant way of writing it because anyone with such a poor outlook on life would not be reading it in the first place.

Mileti has good credentials and qualifications and uses a number of studies to support his assertions. The biggest selling point is even though the book leaves much to be desired, I have to take my hat off to him for publishing it which is doing
more than 95% of everyone.




Pygmalion

It seems we prefer to use the word   can't   over  won't.  I  can't  get along with my wife. I  can't  stop overeating. I ...